Something that Tom and I never did much was go see movies in the theaters. We used to wait for them to come out on video (aging myself there, ha!) and then later on DVD (kind of aging myself again lol). It’s expensive to go to the movies and we were almost always struggling financially.

I think I may have gone to more movies in the two plus years since Tom passed away than we did our entire marriage. That’s probably an exaggeration, but I have gone to several movies.

I’ve gone to the movies with my kids and with my grandkids a few times in the last couple of years.

A little over a year ago, I went to the movies by myself for the first time in my life. It was weird, but it also felt good. Since then, I have gone to several movies alone and really enjoyed it.

Each time has been at the movie theater at the Tonkawa casino. If you haven’t been there yet, you should go. It is a very nice theater with leather reclining seats.

Going to a movie alone may not seem like a big thing to some people, but it was huge to me. After being part of a “we” for so long, these things I do for “me” sometimes still feel weird.

Taking these steps forward can be scary. But I know Tom would want me to take them. I promised him I would be okay and I think I am.


Ann · October 29, 2022 at 3:47 pm


Debbie · October 29, 2022 at 4:21 pm

Tracy, I love reading this! I did the exact same thing after my divorce. It was so weird in the beginning! Then I found myself enjoying it almost to much. It was invigorating to go, in my controlled life I never got to do things by my self. I wish Enid would get a movie theater again I miss going. Please keep sharing and I’m so proud of who you are becoming!!

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