With today being the day before Thanksgiving and the start of the holiday season, I want to talk about how I’m going to manage my emotions and my self-care through the next few weeks.
Holidays after losing loved ones are so different. I’ve struggled with the holidays for years after losing my brother on New Year’s in 1987. Now over the next few weeks, there’s Thanksgiving, Tom and I’s anniversary (first date and wedding), Christmas, and then New Year’s
This will be the fourth December without Tom. It’s also the first December in my new relationship. I’m really lucky that Cary completely understands that my love for Tom will never be gone. And that this time of year will be difficult for me.
The first year that Tom died, I had someone tell me to “make a game plan” for the holidays. So that’s what I did. I started a Christmas Eve tradition of watching some of my favorite funny Christmas movies.
I’m working on my new game plan for this year. If you struggle during the holidays (for any reason), start working on your game plan now, and share it with me if you want to.