This popped up on my Facebook memories for February 24th. It’s the start of what will be several weeks full of memories now through the end of March.

On February 27th, 2020, the doctor recommended that Tom stop chemo treatments.

March 7th, 2017 was the scope that found the tumor in Tom’s esophagus.

March 9th 2017 was the date we found out for sure that the tumor was cancerous.

March 13th, 2017 was Tom’s first PET scan.

March 17th, 2017 was his first oncology appointment where we learned his cancer was already Stage IV.

Sometime that next week, Tom had a port put in place and then had his first chemo treatment on March 31st, 2017.

March 2019:

Tom had his second Keytruda treatment. A few days later, he became very ill. On March 10th, he was taken by ambulance to the hospital in diabetic emergency. We found out a few days later that the Keytruda had destroyed his pancreas and he had become a Type 1 diabetic. Then they found what they thought was a clot on his heart and sent him to the Heart Hospital in OKC. It turned out to be a benign myxoma tumor. Tom underwent open heart surgery later in the month.

This time of year tends to be a minefield of emotions for me. I am working on a plan to help me get through it. First will be to make sure I keep up my exercise routine as movement always helps me. Second will be to make sure I’m writing as that also helps me cope with my emotions. Third will be to reach out for help if I need it. I tend to like to act like I’m always okay, even when I’m not. Basically, make sure that I am taking care of myself and not letting myself drown in the memories and emotions.


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